Being a Keyholder is a position of immense power, but it comes with equal responsibility. You aren't just holding a key; you are holding someone's trust and their most primal urges in your hand.

Consistency is Key

A submissive relies on structure. If you set rules—such as "no touching without permission" or "daily chores for unlock time" you must enforce them consistently. Randomness can be fun (see our article on Gamification!), but inconsistency in rules leads to confusion and a breakdown of the dynamic.

The Mental Game

The physical device is only 10% of chastity; the other 90% is mental. A good Keyholder uses this to their advantage:

• Teasing: Send a text during their workday reminding them they are locked.
• Denial: When you do unlock them, don't always grant release. The frustration fuels their desire to please you.
• Communication: Check in on their mental state. Chastity can lead to "sub drop" or frustration. A good Keyholder knows when to push and when to comfort.

Remember, the goal is mutual enjoyment. Whether you are strict or nurturing, ensure the dynamic feeds both of your needs.